Redefining Your Relationship with Motivation

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You CAN redefine your relationship with Motivation – (Hint: it doesn’t have to be all or nothing!)

Ok. So I used to run religiously. I made sure I got out a minimum of three times a week but it usually ended up being more.

(Stick with me here, this is definitely NOT an “I’m amazing and have super willpower and natural athletic ability” post.)

I had a good system down; a sustainable routine of workouts and even mostly good eating habits. (They say to follow the 80/20 rule of eating healthy 80% of the time so you can cheat 20% of the time. Nailed it!)

But then my good friend, Motivation, started drifting away.

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Motivation is a fickle, jerk of a guy sometimes. Even during the good times he’s hard to keep around. One day he’s my bff, the next he’s nowhere to be found.

Why am I even trying to keep this relationship going?

Because it’s worth it.

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Me and my friend Motivation. He’s obviously the coffee so I’m the donut. I’m ok with that.

So very worth it.

It’s not always easy, sometimes it’s ugly.

But any relationship you want to be long term needs to be nurtured. Stay in touch. Go shopping, have coffee together, watch a movie, talk stupid over a beer.

But you have to remember that every great relationship also needs time apart. It’s ok to do your own thing sometimes.

So don’t get upset or discouraged when Motivation isn’t banging down your door everyday.

Like any friend, some days Motivation will be right by your side, making a workout seem easy or giving you the encouragement to tackle that ridiculously disorganized closet. Who knew you had so many freakin’ towels?


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Other days, you’ll feel like you’re worlds apart. On those days, realize that it’s ok to not be giving 110% all the time. Burn-out will get you nowhere.

Just remember that Motivation is still on your side. He’s not an enemy. He’s not someone that’s out to ruin your day. He wants you to do well and accomplish your goals too. Welcome him back the next day and get back to it!

...look at your relationship with Motivation as one of a friend...

Your perspective changes when you start looking at your relationship with Motivation as one of a friend rather than one of an adversary. If you have any sort of goals in your life, which I sure the heck hope you do!, Motivation is what’s going to help you succeed.

So let’s get to it! Picture Motivation by your side (I like to think of him as a happy cartoon mug of coffee. See image above.) and get going!

Let’s put together some tools:

What are YOUR goals? Exercise more? Eat healthier?

Go back to school? Maybe start your own blog??? Which I would love to read, by the way.

You and Motivation are going to accomplish great things together and I can’t wait to hear about it!

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Great wall decal from Amazon to always keep Motivation in sight!

I would LOVE to hear your plans and successes! Share on Twitter! Post to my Facebook page!

Comment on this post! Email me at!

I love hearing from readers and would love to offer encouragement. Lord knows we could all use more of that. Go get ’em tiger!




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  1. This was a great read. I love how you see motivation as a friend by your side. It’s just like fear riding in the car with Big Magic from Elizabeth Gilbert. Loved it!

  2. I work full time and maintain a blog, and it can be tricky to find the time and energy to put into a blog after a long day at work. A lot of times I kind of beat myself up for not writing a post I was planning on, or putting off my social media management. It is soooooo important to have reminders like this that you don’t have to be super motivated every day of the week. Thank you so much for the reassurance that it’s okay to be human sometimes.

  3. I think these are really good points. I often think of motivation as all or nothing, and you’re right–it’s not really like that. Just because I’m not superwoman some days doesn’t mean I never can be. Great ideas! 🙂

  4. I need to exercise more . I have not in a while unless you consider running behind a toddler exercise lol . I am trying to get organised but then my lists end up having lists . It is a slwo process but I think I am getting there . Thanks for the motivation!
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  5. My Fitbit really helps me get motivated. Yes, some days I don’t give a crap for whatever reason, but when I get home and notice that it’ll only take a 40 minute walk on the treadmill (an episode of Game of Thrones) to hit my 10K steps, I’ll usually just get it done as soon as I get home. Then I feel better about myself and hopefully can get myself to do it again the next day.

    • Somedays I totally ignore my Fitbit too but it kicks my butt when I sit around too long. I love that it buzzes to remind me to move. Usually I don’t need it but on those really lazy days, I definitely do!

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